Ok, here's one of my introspection ones, one thing that I love to do and probably should do a little less of.
So this is the first time I am so alone. I know no one here for miles, who I've known for more than a couple of weeks. I feel awesome, I was looking forward to doing such a stint with a more settled mind. I've been in an alone, remote area situation before, but my overactive brain and restless age made that one of the most difficult experiences I can remember. But I'm discovering that things are different about me now. I don't feel lonely at all. I don't feel the restlessness of needing to be around people and the sinking feeling from being by myself for too long.
Maybe it's too early to be happy about. Or maybe I've evolved into a more comfortable in my skin person. Or maybe it's Kigali. Actually when I think about it, I think it is this city. Peaceful, not too slow to be boring, or too fast to be overwhelming. There is so much freedom of movement, I can go anywhere anytime. Markets are open all the time and it is not weird to roam about or eat alone. I haven't had to compromise with my needs yet. Workout? There're awesome aerobics classes. Cafe? Art? Culture? People to hang out with? Ease of transport? Good weather? It's all here. I don't feel any kind of constraint, except that of my own exhaustion. This freedom is soothing to my soul. It's a weird peaceful feeling.
I've been handling everything pretty well (except one patience breakdown on a long long day). Sorting out my life here slowly, I am very satisfied with how I have settled in patiently and fluidly.
So yea, I'm happy and settled, but at times do feel deprived of concern from others about how I must be doing this alone. Of course it's a full time job of my parents and they're doing a pretty good job at it. It's a minor tick, but eh, a tick anyway. I guess it is a side-effect of portraying oneself as being confident and capable, in this case of living alone in a foreign country. And I guess it is also just another nuisance of growing up.
Well, I just hope my happy, loner self stays happy and excited for the next 2 months!
So this is the first time I am so alone. I know no one here for miles, who I've known for more than a couple of weeks. I feel awesome, I was looking forward to doing such a stint with a more settled mind. I've been in an alone, remote area situation before, but my overactive brain and restless age made that one of the most difficult experiences I can remember. But I'm discovering that things are different about me now. I don't feel lonely at all. I don't feel the restlessness of needing to be around people and the sinking feeling from being by myself for too long.
Maybe it's too early to be happy about. Or maybe I've evolved into a more comfortable in my skin person. Or maybe it's Kigali. Actually when I think about it, I think it is this city. Peaceful, not too slow to be boring, or too fast to be overwhelming. There is so much freedom of movement, I can go anywhere anytime. Markets are open all the time and it is not weird to roam about or eat alone. I haven't had to compromise with my needs yet. Workout? There're awesome aerobics classes. Cafe? Art? Culture? People to hang out with? Ease of transport? Good weather? It's all here. I don't feel any kind of constraint, except that of my own exhaustion. This freedom is soothing to my soul. It's a weird peaceful feeling.
I've been handling everything pretty well (except one patience breakdown on a long long day). Sorting out my life here slowly, I am very satisfied with how I have settled in patiently and fluidly.
So yea, I'm happy and settled, but at times do feel deprived of concern from others about how I must be doing this alone. Of course it's a full time job of my parents and they're doing a pretty good job at it. It's a minor tick, but eh, a tick anyway. I guess it is a side-effect of portraying oneself as being confident and capable, in this case of living alone in a foreign country. And I guess it is also just another nuisance of growing up.
Well, I just hope my happy, loner self stays happy and excited for the next 2 months!
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